#BlogPost: She seduced me by Abimbola Abiola (@AbimbolaAbiolaa)

I came across these cases from Akwa Ibom and Lagos, about a 60, 29 and 20 years' old men who were arrested for rape and of how they told law enforcers that they were lured by their alleged victim's sexy behaviour.

So often when people hear this type of defense, some of them will rant about how girls are too sexy these days and therefore bringing sexual assaults upon themselves. This way of thinking is dead wrong. We've always said it, no girl or woman no matter how sexy she is or how she dresses brings sexual assaults upon herself.

This mindboggling cases should also remind us that this type of excuse is just that, an excuse and not a cause.

Their alleged victims were 8, 9 and 11 years old! Imagine.

If this doesn't shock you into letting go of the 'she seduced me' myth, then maybe hearing that this excuse was used by a convicted child abuser when the victim (his daughter) was only three years old, will have you seeing this lie for what it is.

A rationalization for a heinous crime.

So the question then becomes: will you support the rationalization of rapists or will you stand against these rationalizations and put the blame for rape where it belongs-on the rapist?

Share your thoughts via @StandtoEndRape on Twitter. Thanks for reading.

Press Release: Stand to End Rape Initiative Partners with The Eight Foundation

As a means of expanding and providing more referral centers for survivors of sexual violence, on Wednesday, April 22nd 2015, the Stand to End Rape Initiative team, a leading non-profit organization promoting sexual rights and reproductive health and providing FREE legal, medical and psychological help to survivors of sexual violence visited The Eight Foundation in Lekki Phase 1.

The Eight Foundation is an initiative of Miss Nigeria, Ezinne Akudo and aims at providing a platform where rape survivors can get succor. The rape crisis center has trained psychologists who can counsel both and adult and children survivors.

The centre provides free counselling to survivors and also has a partnership with Easy Taxi to pick the survivors up from any location at no extra cost.

The Executive Director of Stand to End Rape Initiative, Oluwaseun Ayodeji Osowobi expressed her delight to partner with The Eight Foundation and hopes that survivors will embrace this opportunity to speak out.

If you have been raped or abused and need someone to talk to, we are here. Please contact Stand to End Rape Initiative via -

Phone: 08095967000
Email: contactus@standtoendrape.org
           standtoendrape@gmail.com.

You can also conenct with us via our social media platforms -

Twitter: www.Twitter.com/standtoendrape
Facebook: www.fb.com/StandtoEndRape
Instagram: www.Instagram.com/StandtoEndRape

Joke Gone Wrong: The Tale of Comedian Akpororo

Hello everyone,

Hope we are still having a wonderful Easter break.

Just yesterday, a well respected Nigerian comedian and Airtel Ambassador, Akpororo told a rape joke at the ‪#‎AYLive2015‬ comedy show in Lagos. it won't be out of place to state that he is also a 'Gospel artist.' Interesting isn't it? Fola (@4LaH), a STER Ambassador who was present at the event confirmed the joke that was made, which a twitter follower has confirmed to be true.

The joke:

"He said he was traveling in a bus and saw a girl in the same bus. He was trying to ask her out but she didn't agree. Armed robbers stopped them, collected all their valuables and asked him to strip. Then they pointed a gun at the girl and asked her to strip too. Then they ordered him to have sex with her from behind at gun point. Then he started rolling his waist suggestively and the audience was laughing. He even said at the end have enjoyed it so much he started saying thank you to the armed robbers."

Though the joke was distasteful, what was most surprising is the laugh that pervaded the air. People found it funny. When did abuse become something society will accept via comedy and not accept in reality. Just thinking, will this be thesame people who will join a movement or go on radio and TV to denounce this act? Are these thesame kind of celebrity that will say "I stand to End Rape" in public? Hypocrisy mustn't be celebrated.

We believe telling a joke isn't just about making people laugh, it's people convictions. It also to a large extent determines who the person is and what they stand for. Can you catch an Ali Baba doing a rape joke? We doubt it! There is difference between CLASS and CRASS!

When people tell jokes that promote rape, society should frown at and refute this. There is little or no difference between someone who rapes and the one who tells the story in a way that one will feel comfortable with. Until we begin to understand that we have the power to determine what we listen to and judge as right or wrong, rape jokes will keep flying through our social media and public space.

Rape shouldn't be told to suit an audience. It can be told to touch people's conscience and deter others from indulging in the act.

At Stand to End Rape Initiative, we say NO to ‪#‎Rape‬ Jokes in Nigera and Africa as a whole.

We hope the comedian Akpororo will publicly apologise and moving forward, will desist from such an act.

#Give2STER Press Release.

For Immediate Release

September 16, 2014
The #Give2STER Campaign promotes an end to sexual violence and abuse.

Stand to End Rape (S.T.E.R) Initiative works to end all forms of rape through education, supporting victims of rape and changing community perceptions towards sexual violence and abuse. S.T.E.R provides awareness seminars, sexual violence and abuse education, peer mentoring, therapy and promotes sexual and reproductive rights.

The “#Give2STER” campaign is an opportunity for everyone to say no to sexual violence and abuse in our communities, and take a pledge to support the campaign. The campaign is aimed at starting a free self-defense class for children and young adults, visit schools to distribute preventive materials on sexual violence and also to have a rape intervention centre in Lagos (and across Nigeria).

Throughout the coming weeks, S.T.E.R will be sharing information on how you can do your part to promote the campaign.

Follow STER’s Twitter handle: @standtoendrape for campaign updates, ways to donate and opportunities to join the campaign.

The #Give2STER campaign, which is STER's first official fundraiser starts today and culminates on October 4th by 8 p.m.

You can donate to STER’s bank account:

Account Name: Stand To End Rape Initiative

Account Number: 0157148304 (Cooperate Account).

Bank: GTBank

You can also visit http://standtoendrape.org/ or call +2348095967000 for more information, updates on the campaign and ways you can participate on October 4th!

-End of release-

Man, 36, Rapes and Impregnates His Daughter

What is going on with our country #Nigeria? When did it become a norm for men to rape their own daughters? Is this a curse or is it something that some men now derive pleasure in? It's bad enough to rape, but ones' own daughter??? Read more...

A 36-year-old man identified as Aminu Ajao, was arraigned on Monday, January 20th 2014 before an Ebute Meta magistrate court for allegedly raping his 14-year-old daughter. The girl, a primary school student, reportedly got pregnant for her father as a result of the rape.

According to the Police, the incident happened on Wale Azeez Street, Ajasa, Lagos State.

Punch reports:

The magistrate, Ms S.O Solebo, called the victim’s mother and her stepmother to court to give an account of how the event unfolded.

The victim’s mother, who did not disclose her name in court, said she had separated from Ajao and had remarried.

She said, “After our separation, I took my daughter to live with my mother.  But in October, 2013, he went to my mother’s house and took her from there.

Domestic Violence Needs More Attention, Says Governor Fashola

During the 12th anniversary of Ms Funmi Iyanda's "Change A Life Programme,"which held at the Nigerian Television Authority (NTA) Network centre on Victoria Island; Lagos State Governor Babatunde Fashola stated that domestic violence needs more attention. He further explained the need for state police to shift focus from typical social vices such as kidnapping and armed robbery, to tackling grievous issues like domestic violence on women and children. Fashola also highlighted that rape cases are not usually reported by victims, as police lack adequate investigative mechanisms and legal provisions to apprehend/prosecute rapists. This and many more he said his administration will focus on for the new year. Read more after the cut.

Kidnapper | Rapist Caught With an Eight YO Girl Bleeding Through Her Private Part

A Report has reached us from IReporters TV that a suspected rapist in Lagos met his waterloo when he was accosted early yesterday morning by an angry crowd.

The man was said to be making an attempt to sneak away with an eight-year-old girl who he had just raped. The girl was reportedly bleeding from her vagina.

The suspect was intercepted along with his victim at about 8 a.m. yesterday around Akogun Street in the Olodi Apapa area of the state.

An eye witness said that the victim is in hospital presently undergoing treatment due to injuries she sustained from the rape.

The residents of Olodi Apapa were angered by the incident and they took justice into their own hands by beating the kidnapper half to death.

Watch video HERE.

Within Five Months, Sexual Assault Centre Treats 124 Cases in #Lagos

According to Vanguard, a total of 124 victims of sexual assault and domestic violence were attended to in the first five months of operation of the Mirabel Centre for Rape Victims, the first sexual violence and referral centre in Nigeria, located at the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital, Ikeja, Lagos.

Disclosing this, yesterday, in Lagos during the official opening of the centre, Executive Director/Managing Partner, Partnership for Justice, Mrs. Itoro Eze-Anaba, said Oshodi, Mafoluku, Ikeja, Mile 12, Ketu and Ojodu areas of Lagos, were flashpoints for assault and sexual violence because the highest number of incidents reported at the centre, were recorded at these places.

#Nigeria: Landlord Defiles Tenant's 10YO Daughter

Rape cases are getting crazier by the day. So we have been reporting cases of father/daughter, uncle/niece and so many others, this is different. It seems landlords now want to join the "league of rapists." This isn't funny anymore. These people have no sense of respect or regard for girls/women. Is it that this man wants to collect his tenancy fee on this girl or what? We just don't understand what is going on. Read more...

We got a report that, a 42-year-old landlord has been arrested by police detectives from Igando Police Station for allegedly defiling a 10-year-old daughter of his tenant, Lagos, southwest Nigeria.

The suspect, identified as Taiwo Bakare, who is also an electrician from Oyo State, lured the girl, (name withheld) to his parlour with sweets where he allegedly committed the act.

#Nigeria: Prophet in Court over Attempted Rape Charge in #Lagos

The amount of rape cases in  Nigeria is alarming! It has become something I read about daily and I wonder, why? The ineffectiveness of the justice system is now propelling men to think they can just rape anyhow abi???

News reaching us from the Punch is that, a 35-year-old prophet, Favour Emmanuel, on Monday appeared before an Ojokoro Magistrates’ Court, Lagos, over an allegation that he attempted to rape a female worshipper "Anna."

#Nigeria: Three Men Gang-Rape 15YO Girl in #Lagos

Not again! Three men have allegedly gang-raped a 15-year old girl at the Ikorodu area of Lagos, as the police are alleged to be threatening the victim’s parents to settle the matter out of court.
The state government had earlier blamed the police for frustrating rape cases by threatening victims and their families to withdraw their cases. Two of the men have been arraigned at one of the newly established Family Courts in Ikeja for allegedly raping the girl.

#Nigeria: Father Turns Daughter into a Sex Slave for Five Years in #Lagos

Wale Akanusi, aged 50, who turned his daughter to a sex slave for five years, was arraigned yesterday before an Apapa Magistrates’ Court in Lagos, southwest Nigeria.

The man began to defile his daughter, now 17, when she was 12. The victim revealed herself how he turned her into a long-lasting sex slavery.

Akanusi impregnated the girl three times and aborted the pregnancies to cover up his act.

Boy, 14, Rapes Nine-Year-Old Girl to Death

According to The Punch, the police in Lagos State have commenced investigation into how a nine-year-old girl died, after sustaining injuries caused by alleged consistent rape.

According to police authorities, the deceased was raped over five times, by a 14-year-old student, Onyi Adimabua, in the Ikorodu area of the state.

The father of the deceased, Simeon Jigo, told PUNCH Metro that Onyi is the son of the proprietor of the school his daughter attended.

He said his daughter opened up about the rape when she started having medical problems.

#Nigeria: Man Abducts and Rapes Woman for Three Years

The Lagos State Police Command said it has arrested a 37-year-old man for abducting and raping a 30-year-old woman for three years.

The suspect, Idowu Ajibola was paraded alongside three other suspects who specialise in kidnapping little boys in Lagos and Ogun states.

Idowu who was arrested by police attached to the Area ‘E’ Command in Festac town, was said to have abducted Modupe Brown under mysterious circumstance.

It was gathered that Brown was a 400 Level student of Business Administration at the Lagos State University, LASU, when she was abducted and kept incommunicado with her family for three years.