Are You a Real Man?

The question why do (some) men rape has always been on mind. Is it to satisfy their sexual urge or just an act to punish women? Is it for revenge or an act of wickedness? Some of you rape to prove to yourselves that you are a man. Whatever the numerous reasons may be; indecent dressing, refusal of proposal and so on, no woman deserves to be raped.

Rape in its simplest form is a lifetime scar that stays on the survivor's mind. Rape makes the victim feel worthless. Even if they want to brush past it and move on with life, it is difficult sometimes when they think recollect the face of the man, who took advantage of them. Bravery sometimes cannot erase the voice of the rapist, which still lingers in one's head.

You might rape a girl today and think that's all about it, have you thought of the possibilities of the girl getting pregnant? Did you for one second think of your seed growing in the belly of a woman you raped? Will you be man enough in the future to tell your son/daughter how he or she was procreated? I guess not!

When some men realize their evil deed, they use the typical –– I am sorry. Do you just expect your "I'm sorry, it was the devil" speech to correct the past? Have you ever wondered if that victim ever survived the experience? Do you know if your action led to them committing suicide or going into (mental) depression? Will you be bold to say in future, "I was one of those who did what was right in my lifetime?" These are the questions I want you to think about the next time the thought to rape a girl comes to mind.

This might sound like a cliche, but I am very sure you remember 'karma.' Even if you don't eventually have a daughter, your son might. Imagine the hurt you will feel if someone took advantage of her (your daughter or granddaughter) and ruined her life. If you don't want your daughter, daughter-in-law or grandchild's life to be ruined, I suggest you don't ruin others'.

If you take pleasure in raping a girl, be warned and please desist from such acts. 

#Nigeria –– THE EVIL THAT MEN DO! Stand to #EndRape

She was just a young innocent girl, she was 18. Her fault some people say is her decision to obey her parents by getting ordinary garri (food) for the whole family in the night. SHE WAS A GIRL.

Eight men gang raped her one by one and then strangled her neck, and also used hammer and nail to pierce her vagina. They left her to die in by a bush path, spreading her legs wide! Wounded! Exposed! Her body was discovered in the early hours of the morning after a thorough search was conducted through out the night. What’s more is that when she was discovered, it was a horrible site, as no one could look at the nails in her body. 

She was confirmed dead already and no one at the crime scene could hold back tears. Not to worry, she wasn't your sister nor your daughter,  but she could have been. The brutality has to stop right here guys. Rapists deserve capital punishment for their cruel, they just succeed in wasting another girl's life through perverted acts. She died on Friday, 5th October 2013. 

Rest in Peace♥ and we pray that her killers get the WORST punishment possible. This doesn't only happen in Anambra State, but in most states and countries around the world. Is this how we treat our women? It's saddening to live in a world where the vulnerable ones are easily exploited. If her death hurts you, join the movement to Stand to #EndRape.

Culled from: Facebook

#Nigeria –– A Court in #Makurdi Remands Applicant in Prison

A Makurdi Magistrates’ Court on Wednesday remanded an applicant, Daniel Iorkua, 26, in prison over an allegation that he raped an 11-year-old girl.

Iorkua, who lived in Nyon Layout, Gboko Road, was ordered to be remanded in prison custody after the court heard the prosecution.

The prosecuting police officer, Inspector Moses Akoo, told the court that one Terna Fakaa had reported the case at the State Criminal Investigation Department, Makurdi, on September 20, 2013.

He said that the complainant stated that the accused, who was his neighbour, forcefully had sexual intercourse with his 11-year-old ward.

Heartbreaking! Ladies Forced to Sleep with at Least 30 Men a Day. *Stop Sexual Violence*

                              
A criminal complaint has charged 13 people with the crime of smuggling dozens of women into the United States and forcing them into prostitution. Some of the defendants were to appear wednesday in federal court in Manhattan to face multiple counts including sex trafficking and interstate transportation for prostitution.

The ring “lured their unsuspecting victims to the United States and then consigned them to a living hell,” US Attorney Preet Bharara said in a statement.

The investigation was among several aimed at “blockading the repugnant sex trafficking corridor” used to exploit victims from Tenancingo Mexico, said James Hayes, head of Immigration and Customs Enforcement in New York.

#Nigeria Has a Rape Culture Too

Since I heard about the gang rape of a 23-year-old woman in Delhi,India has been on my mind. The woman was on her way home from the cinema with a male friend when they were attacked on a bus. Her injures were so severe the doctors had to remove parts of her intestine to stop the infection and try to save her life. Though she battled to stay alive, she died on 28 December. This incident has provoked a series of angry protests in Delhi and across India as men and women from various backgrounds, castes and religions hit the streets to demand safer living space for women. The fact that it is the first time in the history of India when people were out on the streets on the issue of gender signals an important paradigm shift on national discourse of sex, sexuality and rights of women.

The first time I read the story, I quickly shrugged it off to shield my consciousness from imagining what the victim went through. Yet, the savagery of the act, the use of a rusty metal rod to brutalise her insides, still haunts me. A lot has been written about this incident and anything worth saying has been said. However, I'm writing this in the Nigerian context and violation for the female body in mind. What would have happened if this incident happened in, say, Lagos or Abuja? Let me tell you what would happen. Nothing.

#Nigeria -- The Surge In Rape Cases

Statistics on rape incidents may still not be a good reflection of the extent of the crime. Stigmatisation of rape victims keeps the numbers low, a further armoury to the criminals.

In the United States, where about 80,000 cases of rape reported to the police from 2004 to 2010, according to United Nations data, US Justice and Department estimates 300,000 American women are raped annually, and the Centre for Disease Control says 1.3 million.

The 678 cases the Lagos State Police Command said it recorded between March 2012 and March 2013, should be seen as numbers: Unreported rape cases are on the increase. More alarming is that the epidemic affects underage persons. The media are replete with reports of young girls sexually violated, as young as three months.

Comedy Group in #India Responds to All the ‘Stupid and Hateful Remarks’ Targeting Sexual Assault Survivors

We have the likes of Basketmouth, Bovi, Akpororo, who are really funny and I believe have a vital tool that can contribute to #EndRape. During some of their shows, they can make jokes centered around rape and just yarb (insult) rapists. I'm sure it will hurt some of them and maybe, just maybe; it will trigger their conscience. Well, since they haven't thought of the idea, a comedy group in #India, fed up with rampant victim-blaming demonstrated towards women who've been raped, decided to fight back — with comedy.