What to Do After #Rape in Nigeria by Morenike Fajemisin (@Pharmacistreny)

Rape is one form of sexual assault and a terrible act that has defied understanding of the reasons of the rapist. It has also defied any of the ‘tips’ people give for helping future victims prevent it. Rape is when a person(s) has sex with an unwilling person. Sex should always be consensual, that is, it must happen between willing parties. Any sex with a person who struggles to escape you or lies there begging you to stop is Rape. Because most rape victims are women, I’d like to focus this article where the shoe pinches most. In most developed countries, there are (numerous) easily accessible Sexual Assault Referral Centers you can easily locate and run to for help but this is not the case in Nigeria. I hope to at least guide you through 3 steps that can help you avoid some physical scars so you can move on and be a survivor.

I am yet to hear if a rapist who used a condom and while there are just as many emotional and psychological scars as there are physical scars after rape, here are three DIY steps after rape.

This is My Story

Hello everyone, sorry I have been quiet on the blog (tooo many things to do, e mabinu!) Someone recently sent her story to me and I felt it's worth sharing. I hope every reader learns one or two things from this. It's high time our university students learn to take note of certain signs, inroder not to fall victims. Please read, share and also drop your comments. Your comments keeps me going :).
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It was a Sunday night. We were all going for a pool party: me and two of my friends. We had to do last minute shopping for bikinis which took all the time so we missed the party. We were so pissed and decided to go have drinks with friends. On getting there, they were all in the karaoke groove. We joined in and had loads of fun. 

The guy my friends were with seemed very interested in the 3 of us because we seemed to be having all the fun. We kept dancing and he kept promising to buy us stuff. (we were just in 100 level). 

We were so excited!!!

'Help! This Teenage Girl Is Tempting Me Too Much & I May Be Tempted!'

Dear STER readers, a twitter follower sent this to me and thought I should share it with you (unedited). 

"I want to make this as short as I can, there's this girl who stays opposite my flat, she lives with her elder sister., she just finished sec school. Her sister and I are close but she's never around., left home early everyday and come back late at night, so when I do return from work her Lil sister always come around coz she don't wanna be bored alone, and I do actually enjoy her company we became so close like she's my sister, but recently., last week Friday to be precise she entered my apartment with a really tight dress showing the extent of how big her butt is (which was quite big) she was also holding another dress. Continue to read the rest of the story

23YO Woman Accused of Raping Her 52YO Girlfriend

At least we haven't heard of women raping women in Nigeria (thank God!), but we must tell you, it does exist.

A 23-year-old self-proclaimed ‘sadomasochist’ has been accused of raping her older girlfriend after a night of ‘rough sex’ in July.

Mia C. McCarthy was arrested on October 25 for allegedly punching, biting, choking and threatening to kill her girlfriend of nine months that day.

The unidentified victim also told officers McCarthy, from Lake Worth in Florida, raped her with a ‘marital aid’ during a night of ‘rough sex’ after the victim’s birthday on July 21.

The victim reported the attack to police on October 25 at Butterfly House, a sexual assault care center in Wellington,according to The Sun-Sentinel.